Trials and Tribulations of Romance: Ladies of Reddit Open Up About the Moment They Knew Their Partner Wasn't 'The One'

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Sienna Varady
Mar 15, 2024 11:00 AM EDT

Not all romantic relationships end happily ever after. When you actually get down to it, there are really just two options available: either you split up and go your separate ways, or you get married and live happily ever after with your spouse and a ton of cute kids. However, not all splits and separations are meaningless as each one brings you one step closer to the one.

In a post below, the Original Poster inquires as to what your partner did to help you realize that you weren't meant to be together. And while the conversation includes heartbreaking tales, there are also encouraging interactions that conclude with aspirations and best wishes for a brighter future. That being said, carefully review the items below and consider adding some of your own experiences if you would like to get insight into some of the reasons why relationships fail! After you're through, don't forget to check out these insightful life tips that every girl should know!

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    ? "What did your partner do that made you suddenly understand they weren't right for you?"
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    What did your partner do that made you suddenly understand they weren't right for you?
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    thegirlfromcr 9 hr. ago We were walking to a restaurant and casually chatting, I off-hand tried to remember what I was up to a couple of days prior (it made sense in the context of the conversation). He cut me off and said "probably sleeping in and doing nothing all day". It was just a jab to be hurtful, no lead-up to
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    it at all. Not that it should matter, but I had a credit card, car, and the lease on our house all in my name, he had none of those. He worked part-time as a server but couldn't support himself, I paid all our bills. He didn't want to be on the lease because he didn't want to feel tied down. He was
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    deeply insecure and I guess it just came out, he needed to knock me down a peg when he got the chance. I dumped him over dinner at the restaurant.
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    TwinkleFey 11 hr. ago We were fighting all the time. I'd try to leave and he'd love bomb me. At some point I just asked him to make some effort to treat me with some kindness. He replied that he
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    refused to do that because it would be "a lie". I realized that a the most basic level he just didn't like me, but thought of me as a toy he didn't want to lose.
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    SirSteg 10 hr. ago • He gleefully told me about how he screamed at some teenage cashier at a restaurant because she accidentally double charged him. He told me "it felt good to yell at someone who actually deserved it." He went on about how mean he was to her, how he yelled at her. He was so HAPPY. My jaw was on the floor.
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    I'm the one he screamed at all the time for 5+ years and he accidentally confessed to knowing that I didn't actually deserve it. I'm not saying that that poor kid did because yikes, of course she didn't. That alone might have even been enough if I allowed myself to be honest with myself, but it was the magical phrase "It felt good to yell at someone who actually deserved it" that cured me.
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    Whatever was wrong with my brain that caused me to stay in what I already knew was an abusive relationship, it immediately corrected itself and I was done. Suddenly I got a tidal wave of ick that was a long time building. I'm so ashamed I stayed with that man for as long as I did. I'm so glad it's over.
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    sdabear · 11 hr. ago • He was living with me at my parents' house when he fell on tough times. One day he was using my laptop to check emails and left for work. He didn't log out, so when I used my computer I saw he had emails from his new coworker who "was a lesbian" lol. nothing crazy, just flirty emails and some selfies.
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    Still staring at his inbox, I called him to confront him about it and as soon as I started talking about my findings I saw the emails disappearing one by one (probably deleting them from his phone in the moment). Then, denial, denial, denial. That was the last time that boy ever took me for a fool lol.
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    Emergency_Brief_9280 11 hr. ago Dated a woman for a year. The day she was to start moving in with me, she told me my cat had to go. I told her that wasn't going to happen. She told me I had to choose, her or the cat. I told her goodbye! Never saw her again.
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    PKblaze · 13 hr. ago They called me a burden when I was a guest at their house.
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    jijiinthesky 12 hr. ago Told me that I wasn't allowed to struggle when they were struggling because it invalidated their feelings.
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    Sailor Venus23. 11 hr. ago. edited 11 hr. ago I realized I was parenting him. instead of being with him
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    Isnortcoffeegrounds 9 hr. ago He, who at the time was homeless and jobless and living in his car with his dog, told me, who lived in a nice townhome with roommates, worked full time, and was going to school for my bachelors, that I really needed to get my life together. He was a manipulative and ga hting loser who didn't deserve the 6 months he got with me.
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    Omgshinyobject 10 hr. ago Made it all about himself when I was in the ER
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    Ok-Law-2998 · 13 hr. ago • When I walked outside the pub and saw her making out with a complete stranger. 4 years down the drain but at least I dodged the b let of marrying her. Thankfully I've met a much better woman since then
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    Reggmac 12 hr. ago One morning I woke up, she was sitting in our sun room looking mad. She asked to see my phones. Said she had a dream that I cheated on her. I had nothing to hide. I gave her my phones. She found nothing and never apologized. I never cheated on her.
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    Beneficial-Bee7765 · 12 hr. ago We had been long distance for five years and were finally living together bc I had decided to move to the city he was living in. Every single day I was grateful to wake up next to him in the morning and go to sleep with him at night without having to say goodbye anymore. He applied for a
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    new job in a city 2.5 hrs away from where we lived and only told me about it when he was already about to accept the offer. I tried to be supportive but I felt so lonely throughout the week when he was gone in a city that wasn't even my home to begin with. That was a 6 year relationship down the drain that I thought was gonna last forever
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    legend0920 12 hr. ago. • The inability to communicate effectively during times of conflict made me realize they weren't right for me
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    vanchica · 12 hr. ago • Got into a confrontation with a person who was using the dryer in their laundry room for longer than one cycle. He took their clothes out of the dryer and put his into it. Because "it was not their turn' and said he'd fight them if they disagreed- total freak. Ditched him ASAP
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    someguyfromsk 10 hr. ago. edited 10 hr. ago Canceled all of our NYE plans at 5.30 so she could go hang out with her friends so she "didn't miss out on anything fun".
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    CandelaBelen · 13 hr. ago When he said he didn't care about my feelings, after we had an emotional discussion the day before about wanting to be better for each other and work on our relationship after going through some rough times.
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